QUICK! What are your pet peeves? What type of learner are you? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What communication media do you prefer? Do you have any podcast recommendations? How would YOU answer the 5 rapid fire questions that Andrea asks her guests at the end of every podcast interview? Hear Andrea’s answers to these questions, why she asks them, plus key insights, and more. 

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CONTENTS

  • Summary
  • Resources
  • Transcript

SUMMARY

5 Rapid Fire Questions

1. What are your Pet Peeves? 

  • Andrea’s pet peeves – clutter, and rude/selfish/unsafe drivers that do U-turns in the middle of the street!
  • This is a great Q to get people talking. Consider using this Q at the beginning pf meetings as an ice-breaker.

2. What type of learner are you? 

  • Andrea is a visual learner. When you have a limited amount of time to internalize something, how do you make it stick?  Do you read it? Write it? Draw it? Watch it? Listen to it? Or do it?
  • Consider also TEACHING something to learn it! In the 1980s, a language professor named Jean-Pol Martin first formally investigated “learning by teaching” when he taught French as a foreign language through learning by teaching (or, as he called it: LdL = “Lernen durch Lehren”)
  • Suggestion to use multiple senses or to go multi-media when you’re trying to learn something.

3. Are you an Introvert or an extrovert? 

  • Andrea is an extrovert! She craves social stimulation, social interaction fuels her up.
  • Many people describe themselves as “high functioning introverts.” 
  • Extroverts are externally focused and they crave social interaction. Solitude depletes them. 
  • Introverts are internally focused and social interaction is exhausting for them. Introverts are deep thinkers and the best listeners. Introversion is underrated.  
  • Introversion is not the same as shyness. Shyness is more about confidence. It’s a fear of social judgement and humiliation.
  • Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung invented the terms introversion and extroversion in the 1920s. In 1927 American social scientist Kimbal Young created the term “ambivert.” While an ambivert sits in the middle of the continuum, an omnivert flips back and forth between the extremes. It’s someone who can be the life of the party one day, but then quietly listen and learn the next. There’s no in-between. 

4. What’s your communication (media) preference for personal conversations?

  • Consider the geography, the situational context, and the generation of the people with whom you’re communicating.  

5. What podcast, blog or email newsletter that you recommend?

  • Andrea’s recommendation: The Pivot Podcast
  • Most people discover new podcasts from word-of-mouth recommendations (not from search engines!)

RESOURCES

 

Ask Andrea a Question!

Dr. Andrea Wojnicki & Talk About Talk 


TRANSCRIPT

Ahem – Are you ready for the 5 rapid fire Qs?

  1. What are your Pet Peeves
  2. What type of learner are you? (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic)  How does that affect your communication?
  3. Introvert or extrovert
  4. Communication (media) preference for personal conversations. 
  5. Podcast or blog or email newsletter that you recommend lately?

 

Greetings and welcome to Talk About Talk episode number 110, where we’re focusing on QUESTIONS. We’re going to talk about the 5 rapid fire Qs that I ask every guest expert whom I interview. This is going to be a fun episode – where you can think about what YOUR answer would be, and also learn a bit at the same time. I’m also going to invite YOU to ask ME a question that I can answer in a future talkabouttalk episode. More on that in a minute.

 

So I’m going to ask YOU the five rapid fire questions that I ask our guests. I want you to challenge yourself to think about what your answer would be if you were speaking into a microphone and someone asked you these five questions. Then I’m going to go through them 1 by 1. And I’m going to share with you, WHY I asked this question, what my answer would be, what I’ve learned by asking the Q, and of course, some of my favorite answers that I’ve heard from the many, many Talk About Talk guests.

Are you ready?

 

Let me start by briefly introducing myself. I’m your executive communication coach, Dr. Andrea Wojnicki (please call me Andrea!). I‘m so glad you’re here! If you’re an ambitious executive with a growth mindset, then you’re in the right place. You’ve probably spent years learning the technical skills, and now it’s time to up your game by focusing on your communication. And that’s EXACTLY what we do here at talk about talk.

 

If you go to the TAT.com website, you’ll find all sorts of communication skills resources, including online courses, corporate workshops, one-on-one coaching, the weekly communication coaching newsletter, AND the ARCHIVE of this bi-weekly podcast.

 

Today we’re focusing on QUESTIONS.  We’re going to look back at that podcast archive, focusing on the 5 rapid fire Qs that I ask our guests  

 

The first TAT episode was released in January 2019, that’s over 3yrs ago. Back then, MOST of the TAT episodes. Featured me interviewing a guest  Not all of them, but most of them. More recently, that’s switched.  Most of the episodes lately are host-on-mic.  That’s podcast talk for one voice. Recently some episodes have taken on a different format altogether.  Yah, I’m getting more creative. Like recently in episodes 102 and 106, when you heard a live Q&A of me answering communication Qs from audiences of several hundred people.  I’ll leave links to those episodes in the shownotes so you can find them easily. 

 

Those episodes are really popular, so I got to thinking, I should ask YOU (yes I’m talking to YOU), and ask, what Qs do you have for me?  If you could sit down and ask me anything, what would you ask?  It could be something about your own communication.  Or maybe about how to manage your personal brand.  Or maybe it’s about how I create this podcast? Or how I run my business? 

Please! I’d love to hear your Q!  And I hope to share your Q, and my answer in a future TAT episode.

I just set up a button on the talkaboutalk.com website – you’ll see it on the homepage and on the podcast page – where you can ask me a Q. Between now and November 1st, if you ask me a Q, I’m going to answer your Q on a talkabouttalk podcast episode.  I hope you’ll leave me a recording of your Q, or you can use the contact form.  However you send the Q, I can’t wait to hear it!  Please bring it on and you might hear your voice in a future episode.

 

But now, let’s get into the 5 rapid fire Qs.  Whatever you’re doing right now, I want you to pretend for a minute that you’re my guest. Im interviewing you. We could be seated across the table from each other, or perhaps we’re on Zoom.  YOu’re the TAT guest, and I’m going to ask you 5 rapid fire Qs. You have a microphone in front of you, and your answers are being recorded.  

 

Ahem – Are you ready for the 5 rapid fire Qs?

  1. What are your Pet Peeves
  2. What type of learner are you? (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic)  How does that affect your communication?
  3. Introvert or extrovert
  4. Communication (media) preference for personal conversations. 
  5. Podcast or blog or email newsletter that you recommend lately?

 

How was that?  Did you have a definitive answer? Are you curious what others would say? Are you wondering why I would ask that Q?  Well, now to get into all that. I’m gonna tell you what my answer is. I’m going to tell you WHY I ask each of those Qs. You’ll also learn what I’ve learned. And you’ll hear some of the most interesting answers that I’ve heard.

 

The first question is – what are your pet peeves? 

Off the top of my head, I have two pet peeves. The first is clutter. I cannot focus when a space is cluttered. I need my space to be clear. Clutter stresses me out.  I know I’m not the only one out there who’s like this.

 

My other pet peeve is very specific. It’s on the road. When I’m driving. And people do U turns? In the middle of the street. Not in intersections, Not pulling into a driveway, They just randomly do a U turn and usually it’s blocking traffic both directions. It’s selfish, it’s unsafe, and it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.

 

Speaking of traffic, I have to say that when I ask this question of talk about talk guests, pet peeves that are associated with traffic and driving come up alot. Like slow drivers in the fast lane. Or people that don’t use their indicator signals that sort of thing. It seems like a lot of people have pet peeves when it comes to driving.

 

Why do I ask this question about pet peeves, you might be wondering? Of the five questions – you may have noticed, this is the question that is the least related to communication skills. In fact, it’s really not related to community communication skills at all. The reason I ask it is just to get people talking. Sharing their potentially quirky insights or ideas right out of the gates. Just to get the ball rolling.  And I get the impression that people like answering this Q.  You could consider using this Q as an ice breaker when you’re leading a meeting.  It definitely gets people talking.

 

OK – let’s jump into question #2. Which is much more related to communication. The question is what type of learner are you? Are you visual, auditory, or kinesthetic? Or some other type of learner? And how does that affect your communication?

 

It may surprise you. Particularly given that I am a podcaster, that I am primarily a visual learner. I listen to a lot of podcasts and I also listen to a lot of books. And I’m definitely capable of internalising and learning information when I hear it. But to be honest. The most dense books that I listen to, I end up buying and reading them. I sometimes turn pages where I might want to review something, and sometimes I write in the margins. 

 

A I remember back when I was in high school and university – taking notes in class. I was one of those students who had different coloured pens and highlighters. And looking at the colours on the page really helped me internalize information. I’m also an artist. I paint. So I’m definitely a visual learner.  Knowing that, sometimes when I’m thinking about a concept. For example, if I’m working on developing an idea, I like to draw it out.

 

I did a little research on this topic of modes of learning before I started asking the Q. In terms of the academic research on modes of learning, there is certainly no conclusion about which mode is best, or even whether we should be thinking about modes of learning as varying across people. Perhaps it’s more about optimizing within each mode. But that said. I know there are people out there that learn best from reading or that learn best from listening. And so on. And frankly, I think it can be a very powerful personal insight to understand how you best learn. How to study.  When you have a limited amount of time to internalize something, how do you make it stick?  Do you read it? Write it? Draw it? Watch it? Listen to it? Or do it?

 

When my clients are trying to adopt a new communication habit, I encourage them to go multimedia. This is also an interesting insight. Say you’re trying to memorize and internalize a mantra – sentence to help you focus on something, or to improve your confidence. I suggest going multimedia.  WRITE It.  Several times.  Like writing lines.  Then read it. So post a copy on your bulletin board or on a post it note on your laptop. Then say it. Say it out loud. Write it. Read it, think it, say it, hear it.  Go multimedia.  The research is quite conclusive that when you use multiple senses or multiple media sources, you’re more likely to internalize the information.  Not surprising, right?

 

If you’ve been listening to TAT for awhile, you may have noticed that when I ask podcast guests what type of learner they are, the most common answer is probably visual. People LOVE their YouTube videos, don’t they?   

 

But one of my favourite answers that I’ve heard is slightly different. “What type of learner are you? I prompt people with “Visual, auditory, kinesthetic, or some other type of learner?” One of the most unique answers we’ve heard is “Learning by teaching.” 

 

They say that the ultimate level of learning is through teaching.  Have you heard that?  I did a bit of research – reading on this, and of course, learning by teaching has existed forever.  Way back when, it was a necessity. Children learned things and then they taught the younger children. It wasn’t until the 1980s – forty years ago – that learning by teaching was systematically researched. A language professor named Jean-Pol Martin taught French as a foreign language through learning by teaching (or, as he called it,: LdL = “Lernen durch Lehren”). So it was only 40 years ago that “learning by teaching” was validated as a viable educational theory.  

 

Betcha didn’t know that, did you?  Me neither. But interesting.

 

Before we go on to rapid fire Q #3, I want to pause and encourage you to think about how you learn best. If you had to choose one, would you read or listen or write or draw or teach? Or maybe it’s a combination of these. I encourage you to go multimedia when you can. 

 

OK – Q#3:  Introvert or extrovert

I am definitely, 100% an extrovert.  OK, not 100%.  Maybe 90%.  It is a continuum.  That’s something you need to know.  I ask the Q like this, as a binary – introvert or extrovert,  to be provocative. 

 

I know I’m an extrovert because I get energized when I’m around people.  I noticed this when I attended evening meetings, say at a conference or maybe a board meeting. Afterwards – say at 9 or 10pm, when I’m trying to wind down, I can’t.  Social interaction fuels me up. Even when I’m working alone – say preparing a podcast or writing a paper, I’m imagining the listener or the reader. I seek social interaction. Yes, I even enjoy cocktail party small talk.

 

This is an important and fascinating Q, at least I think it is. In fact, I dedicated a whole episode to it – episode #82.  I’ll leave a link to that episode in the shownotes. 

 

There are a few important things that I really want you to know about the introvert extrovert scale.  Let me briefly cover just a few of those things now. Of course, there’s lots more in episode 82.

 

The most important thing I hope you know is that introversion is not a bad thing. We should not all be seeking extroversion.  In fact, I’d say that being an introvert is an under-rated personality trait. There are many smart and successful introverts out there. Introverts are often deep tinkers.  And they are the best listeners. If you think you might be an introvert, or if you live with one, like I do, I encourage you to read a book by Susan Cain called QUIET. I’ll leave a link to that book in the shownotes. 

 

SO  that’s the first thing.  Introversion is not a bad thing.  

 

If you’ve for awhile, you may have noticed that many, perhaps even most of the podcast guests when I ask them. Introvert or extrovert? They say. I’m a high functioning introvert. Or. I was an introvert and I’ve learned to become an extrovert.

 

I think I know what these people are saying. I think. They probably. Lack confidence or felt really shy when they were in front of people, particularly when they were on stage and particularly earlier in their career and they learn to get over it. So this is the second insight about this. Introvert, extrovert? Question. It is different from shyness. Susan Cain also covers this in her book Quiet. Well, the introvert, extrovert scale measures. Where and how you are stimulated and where you get your energy, shyness is really a fear of social judgement and humiliation.

 

Believe it or not, there are shy extraverts. And there are confident introverts. I encourage you to think about these dimensions. More specifically.

 

A lot of the people who answer this question introvert or extrovert. Also say that they’re somewhere in the middle. The truth is, most of us are in the middle period, and there’s a word for that. It’s ambivert.

 

Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung invented the terms introversion and extroversion in the 1920s – 100 years ago.  Then a few years later in 1927, an American social scientist named Kimbal Young created the term “ambivert.”  And the truth is, that’s where most of us sit on the continuum.  We seek both solitude and social interaction.  Of course!

 

There’s another related term, omnivert.  While an ambivert sits in the middle of the continuum, an omnivert flips back and forth between the extremes. It’s someone who can be the life of the party one day, but then quietly listen and learn the next  There’s no in between. 

 

I have to say my favourite answer to the Q “Introvert or Extrovert?” was way back when I interviewed. My favorite professor. Harvard professor Jerry Zaltman. When I asked Jerry, introvert or extrovert, he said, Vert? Can I just be a vert? I didn’t know what to say to that lol. 

 

Now when I think about that, I respect his rejection of being slot into a certain category. On the other hand, I do have some advice for you. And it’s this. If you know that you tend to be on the extreme. In particular, an extreme introvert or an extreme extrovert, use that insight to schedule your day. Both professionally and personally. Think about. What fuels you up, and think about? What situations deplete you. Specifically looking at solitude and social interactions. If you know you’re going to be fired up after.

 

question #3. We’ve now covered question number one, pet peeves. Question #2. What type of learner are you in question #3 introvert or extrovert question #4 : What’s your communication or media preference for personal conversations? We’re not talking about work emails where you need to copy your boss or whatever.  But when you want to ask your bestie something.  Do you… (phone, email, text or social media, FB Messenger, snapchat or? WHY?)

 

interesting trends here that are actually not surprising. The answer to this question varies by geography, by context, and by generation.  

 

For example, if you’re communicating domestically with someone, you might text.  Internationally, suddenly it’s WhatsApp.  Or if you’re in Asia, it’s WeChat. 

 

In terms of context, people use email or platforms like Slack for professional purposes, messaging for personal. A of the podcast guests who answered this Q talked about how when a work team really gets going on a project, they will shift from email to texting. I’ve noticed that too.  Fascinating. 

 

In terms of age, the older cohorts are more likely to say. In person or. On the phone. The younger cohorts. Are more likely online using social media or texting. And My teenage son said to me just last week that NO ONE ever uses email.  No one.  Ever.  Hmm.

 

Everyone seems to agree, and rightly so, that the more thorough the conversation is in terms of seeing and hearing a person. The less room there is for miscommunication.

 

right? Well, I have to tell you, even as a communication coach, This is absolutely true, but sometimes when I’m. A bit lazy or rushed, I’m reminded that picking up the phone or scheduling a zoom call is infinitely more effective than email or texting.. Recently I was working on a project with someone and we were crunched for time. I was reminded that you can’t perceive tone of voice in an email.  Thankfully we cleared things up and all is well now.

 

So my advice for you here is to consider the geography, the situational context, and the generation of the people you’re communicating with.  Of course!

 

On to the last Q.  Rapid fire Q #5: Is there a Podcast or blog or email newsletter that you recommend? 

By the way, if you scroll down to the shownotes for this or any TAT episode, I always include links to our guests favourite podcasts. I read somewhere recently that most people discover new podcasts from word-of-mouth referrals.  As opposed to finding podcasts using the search function. And yes, of course I HOPE you recommend this talkabouttalk podcast to all your friends!!

 

A few years ago when I asked this Q, several guests recommended the Tim Ferriss podcast.  I used to listen to that podcast all the time. From the very beginning, lots of people also recommended Brené Brown’s podcast – and her books. She’s still getting a lot of traction. Recently a lot of people are recommending the podcast SMARTLESS. I’ve listened to a few of those, especially when they interview a guest that I admire.

 

Over a year ago , 2 of my podcast guests recommended the same podcast – this was from culture expert Hilton Barbour and social media expert Andrew Jenkins. Whenever I hear the same recommendation from a few different people that I respect, I figure I should give it a try.  Usually I love it – and this was the case with the PIVOT podcast with Kara Swisher and Scott Galloway.  These days, PIVOT is definitely my favourite podcast. If you’re into business & technology and politics, try PIVOT. Kara and Scott are smart and I love their playful banter. My only complaint is that Kara says “INTERESTING” too much.  Come on Kara. You can find a more interesting word than interesting. It’s become her filler word. Her clutch word. And Scott says, “and that is” a lot. That’s his clutch word, or clutch phrase. I wish one of their producers would let them know their clutch words. But I digress. Otherwise, I’d say their podcast is fantastic.

 

I admitted to someone recently that while I don’t participate in or advocate celebrity worshipping, if I ever saw Kara Swisher on the street, I would definitely feel compelled to introduce myself.  I really admire her. If I could invite anyone for dinner, who would it be? Kara Swisher is definitely on my list of who I’d invite for dinner.  

 

Who would YOU invite for dinner?  That’s another great Q, isn’t it?

Speaking of Qs, before I go I want to remind you that I really really want to hear your communication skills Q. I’m going to start answering listener Qs in this podcast, so now’s your chance to ask me anything – about communication skills, about this podcast, whatever you need to know.

 

Just go to the talkabouttalk.com and you’ll see a button on the homepage and on the podcast page where you can submit your questions.  I can’t wait to hear from you.

OK – that’s it.  

 

THANKS for READING – and Talk soon!

 

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